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 Post subject: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 4:10 pm 
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Dear RM Community,

I just wanted to take a moment to remind everyone that Mafia is a game, played on a forum, on the internet. It is not "real life". Sometimes, games can get a bit intense - perhaps due to game mechanics, or player style. It should never ever be taken personally.

If someone goes too far, be assured that someone WILL address it behind the scenes (here at RM anyway), and hopefully, the person who went a bit far will temper their approach as time progresses. We are all human, we are all different. Someone coming after you in a game does not mean that they hate you! It means they are playing a game.

What happens in a game should stay in that game. Once it is over, the "trauma" or "slight" should also be over.

Lately, however, it seems that a couple of people have taken what happens in mafia to such extreme personal lengths, that it is making the game "not fun" in the entire community. The entire community being all the forums that we all play at.

There is one particular "drama" that has been going on for way too long now. If you don't know what I am talking about, then that is a good thing. Unfortunately, the way gossip has been spreading, I fear that most people have some notion of what it is. Gossip is as bad as poison. If you are made aware of something in private, don't repeat it. If you do not know the facts, first hand, then you should not repeat things you "heard". It only serves to fan the flames of discord. If someone wants to "fan the flames", I would suggest that you change the subject to something else.

To address the gossip: In a nutshell, there was an issue at this site where rules were broken by a player. It was dealt with. The person involved does not like the results. Unfortunately, this has caused a lot of drama EVERYWHERE. I, and the other Mods of this forum, took action based on an infraction of RM rules, nothing more. A lot of people are now being assaulted with a distortion of the facts. Please do not listen to it. As I said, the situation was handled, it is over. It needs to be over. IT IS OVER.

If anyone wants to discuss anything with me in private, you may contact me on Skype.

Mafia should be FUN! This is your community, it is my passion. I want everyone to enjoy themselves when they are at RM.

So, let's get rid of the drama and do what we love! Play Mafia and HAVE FUN!!!!

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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 4:41 pm 
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As someone who's been sucked into a lot of what you're talking about... I whole heartedly hug this statement. :D



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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 4:50 pm 
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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 4:55 pm 
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I have no idea what you are talking about, but I guess that's a good thing :)
I do hope that people will be able to not take the drama personally (or just avoid the drama in general)
LT, and the other mods, you are doing a great job! I love RM, and the people on it :) thank you! ;)

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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 6:20 pm 
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Wow, I guess it is at times like this thats it may be better not to be in the know.



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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 6:39 pm 
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As someone who's been sucked into a lot of what you're talking about... I whole heartedly hug this statement. :D


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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 6:44 pm 
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Drama is over rated tbh. I'm all for just playing the game :partyon:



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I never know what's going on...

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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 1:37 am 
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OMG let tell you guys about this co host I have. What a pain in the ass. Always trying to change my game and stuff. .................... :p



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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 11:04 am 
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Oh, oh! There's the drama!^

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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Thu Mar 17, 2011 10:38 pm 
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I never know what's going on...


This. :shrug2:

Here's what I DO know is going on: Two games into my post-hiatus-ness, I am happy to be back mafiaing, and think RM is just peachy. Lots of people here I don't know, and a pool of A+ mods. Hooray!!!








*goes to poke around and find out what the drama I missed was......*
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So, how does everyone feel about the tools and systems we have at our disposal for dealing with asshattery if it is encountered? Does everyone know what to do?

Hosts, do you feel comfortable with your level of capability when it comes to dealing with Asshats in your games? Is there anything you need in order to take a more active role?

Players, if you are getting upset about someone being an asshat, don't ignore it, and don't leave! Please feel free to report the post, even if you're not sure that the level of asshattiness warrants it. We want to know. It's not like we're going to be cracking down on everyone that gets reported - we'll review the posts in question, and maybe follow up with you. If we see a pattern of people getting mildly upset with a certain individual, that will give us the opportunity to let that person know about it, and hopefully the situation can be improved.

BUT, if no one reports posts, then the tensions build up silently, and people get way more upset. Don't be afraid of the Report button - it's not going to execute the person you're reporting, and they won't be notified that YOU reported them. Don't channel your negative energy back into the thread where it will grow, blast it all into the report button and log your feelings with us!



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Well said LC. Well. Said.


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I think LC is an Asshat for posting this. :P



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I think LC is an Asshat for posting this. :P


I thought about reporting rabbit for this post, but decided instead to let it form part of my pent up tensions against rabbit.

In all seriousness though - I think this is a really good post. I have never used the report button because I don't want to get someone in trouble. Seeing it as a 'venting' tool is a good approach.



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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
PostPosted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 12:06 pm 
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I have never reported a post while playing a game, sometimes I have felt like I should, but some players have a very strong style, so sometimes I guess it depends how much it can be consider part of their style or part of rudeness??? cause what it may be consider rudeness for some is just normal for others :shrug:

I have only hosted one time here, and it was a while ago, but I thought it was a good experience, there was not really much complaining from my POV or the players



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Drama is lame.



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Hopefully, all drama is over and done with.

We just wanted to remind everyone in the entire Mafia Community that there is a way to vent your angst other than leaving - and that is to report posts/PMs that bother you. Maybe something that is minor can be nipped in the bud before it becomes "drama". Hosts also have the same recourse when having issues with players that get out of hand.

We can't take care of issues if we don't know about them.

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Maybe we can add a code tag, such as [ban]DexterAlt[/ban]. :noble:



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Maybe we can add a code tag, such as [ban]DexterAlt[/ban]. :noble:

Harsh! :sobbing:



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Maybe we can add a code tag, such as [ban]DexterAlt[/ban]. :noble:

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Yes, we are here to help but only if we know about them. :nicenod:



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 5:12 pm 
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Maybe we can add a code tag, such as [ban]DexterAlt[/ban]. :noble:

Harsh! :sobbing:


Harsh, but fair. LC's suggested 'execute' button would come in handy for Dex too :nicenod: :politegiggle: :politegiggle:



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 Post subject: Re: Addressing the Drama
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Maybe we can add a code tag, such as [ban]DexterAlt[/ban]. :noble:

Harsh! :sobbing:


Oh, don't get me wrong, that was just an example. :notme:

What I'm trying to says is that banning isn't mandatory... I mean... Er, the code tag could also say [kick in the crotch], [fiercely stab] or [feed to a boa constrictor].

Anyway, we should just avoid the drama and asshatery. :cyndy:



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:lol: @ Manu.... and agreed on your last point! :nicenod:



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And by all means, I suggest a button that converts unpleasant posts into lovely smileys.

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Maybe we can add a code tag, such as [ban]DexterAlt[/ban]. :noble:

Harsh! :sobbing:


Harsh, but fair. LC's suggested 'execute' button would come in handy for Dex too :nicenod: :politegiggle: :politegiggle:

How rude

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